Not getting what you want in life, even when you put a ton of time, energy, and effort into it, can hurt. It can make you feel like the universe is conspiring against your happiness. You may even think that if it weren’t for bad luck, you’d have no luck at all.
That’s not true.
Most of the time not getting what you want is a blessing in disguise.
Perhaps you learned what you didn’t want in your relationship.
Perhaps you gained some confidence in yourself by going for that job you thought you’d never get.
Perhaps you were seeking success instead of seeking fulfillment/significance and the universe knew you’d be just as miserable as you are now in a few short years.
A great book on this subject is The Trap of Success by my friend Gene Hammett.
So remember to thank God for unanswered prayers….